I’m sitting in the living room, telling my husband an amazing story (well I thought so!) and Cole teeters in and proclaims “BAAGA.” I pause and look over, my phone dings and I open it up…What was I talking about again?
I have always been a bit of a distracted and forgetful person, but being a mom has truly magnified it. I joke about mom brain on a regular basis because I have now pulled into a gas station and left, forgetting to get gas; spent many showers debating if I have already washed my hair or not; meandered through a grocery store sure that there was something else that I was supposed to get (it was the toilet paper that I had gone specifically there to get).
There is a stream of things to remember, to worry about, to stop worrying about, to buy, to do, to pay, to cancel (I have like 1,000 audible credits by now, dang it). With all of these things running through my head, I tend to be a little distracted. So when I sit down to, I don’t know, write a blog, I get pulled into the Amazon shopping cart and my email and why did I leave that tab for audible open again, I should close that!
It is so so easy to sit down with a task in mind and an hour later I have started 5 other things and not finished a one of them. And don’t even get me started on my phone…the other night I opened it to set my alarm and then saw a notification, and then opened another app, and then NEVER set the alarm!
So what can you do? How do you fight the distractions?
First off, phone down. I know, I know, this is tough one! But when you sit down to work on something, put your phone out of reach. If I get stuck mid-sentence and am not sure how I want to word the next line of an email, I’ll just grab my phone to open it and browse around, because I want to get out of doing something difficult. I still have to finish that email eventually, but now it will take me twice as long to accomplish it! Put your phone out of reach and face whatever you are working on head on!
Next up, you can’t stay focused forever, so set a timer. My sweet spot is about 45 minutes, so I set the timer and say that I can’t stop working on this task until I’m done or the timer goes off.
Last off, take care of yourself! You will be mentally stronger when you take a break and cut yourself some slack!